When we open up Facebook hoping to find that people have left comments or liked one of our posts, we may be setting ourselves up for danger. Certainly, it could be that you are simply excited about interacting with your friends and family… there’s nothing wrong with that. But it could also be for you (as it is for me at times) that there is a lot more hinging on whether or not people have appreciated what you have posted. It could be that your very happiness in that moment depends on people “liking” you.
Our hearts often move that way when left unchecked, don’t they? When no one (or a precious few) have acknowledged our activity on Facebook, we take it personally and interpret it as a lack of love on the part of our friends or a deficiency in our ability to communicate. We make ourselves the center of our social networking and as a result, when we’re in this state of mind, we never know if there’s going to be happiness or self-pity on the other side of opening our Facebook wall. If people liked or commented, we’re happy, if they didn’t, then some of the wind is sucked out of our sails. When your joy is dependent on your ability to communicate, then your joy will be empty and short-lived. This is just a small example of what happens when Facebook is about you and not about God.
If this sounds familiar, here’s a suggestion for how to battle this tendency. The next time you’re about to open up Facebook and you sense that your heart is going there to look for happiness, instead, open up your Bible to a text that reminds you of what you have in Christ. Go to a text like Ephesians 1:3: “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places.” This verse shifts our attention from self to Christ because Paul is telling us that we have been blessed with every spiritual blessing, but those blessings do not hinge on our performance, rather, they hinge on Christ, and Christ did not fail to do everything necessary for us to have those blessings. The great thing about meditating on texts like these is that you never have to worry about them changing. People’s recognition and praise of you on Facebook ebbs and flows, but God’s perfect love for you in Christ is always full and perfect.