For Husbands: When to Give Flowers

Valentine’s day, birthday, anniversary, forgetting one of these occasions, coming home after being out of town on business for a week, and sticking your foot in your mouth.  What do all of these have in common?  For husbands, they are occasions when it is expected that you will buy something for your wife.

There is certainly nothing wrong with buying flowers or some earrings for your wife on these occasions, but I think it’s a good idea to let these occasions be the base line for giving to your wife.  You don’t want the only occasions when you buy something for your wife to be those times when you would be deemed a jerky jerk if you didn’t.  Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing.”  Men, if you are married, then everyday you wake up should be an occasion to remind yourself that you are blessed to have a wife.  With this realization will come gratitude and gratitude will show itself in action.

One action in particular is what I like to call giving “just because” flowers.  There should be sporadic, random days in the life of a husband when he brings flowers home to his wife and when she asks, “What’s the occasion?”, he will be able to say, “Just because.”  On these occasions, “just because” will be translated by your wife as “just because I love you”.  I think the only way you can ruin this is if you ask for something right after you give her the flowers.  Then “just because” will be translated, “just because I wanted to butter you up”.  So, with that small warning, plan to give your wife some “just because flowers” soon, but don’t do it just because I told you to.


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About Brent Osterberg

Ransomed sinner, husband to Keri, father to the kiddos three, associate pastor at Calvary Bible Church in Fort Worth, TX, and lover of most things epic. View all posts by Brent Osterberg

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